What’s more difficult: getting to the gym, or actually working out at the gym?
Or getting into the shower, vs. actually showering?
Getting into bed vs. sleeping?
A lot of the times, the most difficult thing is the initial hurdle.
It happens way more often in life than we think.
That hurdle is sneakily in every aspect of our life:
- Getting to the library to study
- Writing a new blog post
- Starting any new habit
- Starting a new project
- Starting a new book
The common theme is starting
The start is always the most difficult because we see this giant hurdle right at the front of the gate and fear that we can’t make it.
Although I don’t know of any scientific research that proves this hurdle exists, I believe that even just realizing that the hurdle exists is part of the many steps we take to prepare ourselves to jump it.
I have this huge hurdle in front of my new project to start creating podcasts and YouTube content. It’s a big hurdle. So I suppose I should start stretching my hips. This hurdle is a big one, but I plan to jump it.
I recently started the classic self-improvement book: How to Win Friends and Influence People. Here are the first three principles discussed.
Principle 1: Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain
Sharp criticism of other people doesn’t work.
People will always try and justify their wrongdoings, and condemn you back for sharp criticism. Sharp criticism is more like a homing pigeon >>> will always come back to you
Principle 2: Give honest sincere appreciation
Fear the friend who flatters you. This flattery can often be seen as manipulative or insincere/fake. Instead, look for people who offer genuine appreciation and praise, and do so yourself.
Principle 3: Arouse an eager want in people.
Bait the hook for what they want, not what YOU want.
The only sustainable way to get people to do things is to make them want to do it. Do not however create manipulation; create a mutual beneficial situation
Henry Ford once said:
“If there is any one secret to success, it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own”